How We Express Anger
People seek counseling to address anger because anger impacts relationships and the ability to function. Anger is an emotion, and similar to other emotions such as happiness, sadness, or fearfulness. It is beneficial to avoid labeling emotions as either “good” or “bad”. By acknowledging and accepting emotions you can begin to start to control your emotions. When you deny your anger the anger controls you. In anger management counseling we focus on the emotions followed by anger. Specifically counseling shows various unhelpful ways of responding to anger that become habits.
Self talk and/or the internal dialogue that we have with ourselves in response to a trigger is a key element in our anger response. Think about the last time that you got very upset, did you think about similar situations in the past? Did you think about how unfair the situation was? Many people who struggle with anger have trigger thoughts, negative thoughts that with feelings of pain or hurt create the perfect storm to intensify anger. We do and say things that we normally would not do, when we are angry.
How Anger Management Counseling Helps
In order to break the bad habits associated with anger such as yelling, avoidance, or even damaging property a person needs to slow down the thought process associated with anger. When a person can think rationally they allow themselves the choice to think and behave how they would like to versus being giving in to anger responses. In anger management counseling, we teach people important skills to dispute unhelpful thoughts and replace unhelpful thoughts with reality based thoughts that leave them feeling in control versus helpless or stuck. We also teach skills that help people no longer feel fearful of emotions such as anger that is a natural and necessary emotion.
In anger management counseling, we show people how to become aware and acknowledge the feeling of anger, how to pause and label their emotions. It’s important to know when to step back from your anger and notice the intensity and strength of your anger. In anger management counseling you will learn the following:
- How to take care of your self
- How to acknowledge your increasing racing thoughts
- When to take action
- How to slow down your thoughts
- When to relax and self-soothe
- How to challenge your anger triggering thoughts
- What you are able to control
We look forward to helping you manage your anger.